Whether you know it or not you’ve been using the site for exactly what it’s intended. You’re talking… you’re bitching… but most importantly, you’re quitting.
Some people have come and gone… They will hopefully get quit in their own due time. Remember, we always tell people that they have to quit for themselves and no one else. But seeing failure has strengthened YOUR resolve. You’ve banded together to become a stronger unit… a cohesive unit if you will (don’t get any ideas… the name’s already taken 😉 )
I wish I could archive the last day and a half in this group… It’s a PERFECT example of how this site works. You’re not all chummy chummy, but you’re WORKING TOGETHER to get and stay quit. You’re all between 40 and 70 days quit by this point. You’ve made it past the worst physical withdrawal and you’re getting fucking bored with quitting.
I’m here to tell you… this is COMPLETELY NORMAL!!! We (oct 06) did the same damn thing. There wasn’t any serious talks about caving, but it was amazing how the talks about family, fun and friends returned to talk about cope, kodiak and quitting right around this time in our quits. — it’s a natural progression of a quit group — congratulations!
As a group, your next big hurdle is going to be the “funk” that hits around the 80’s. Some of you may be experiencing this at this point… you’re bored… you’re sick and fucking tired of quitting. Not that you want to cave perse, but you’re sick and fucking tired of focusing on dip all day every day… don’t worry. You WILL GET THROUGH THIS.
Many of you guys know me and I think it’s fair to say that I’ve never led you astray. I consider myself one of the most addicted people on this board (at least I was) when it comes to the habit of dipping. I still struggle with situations where I always had a dip in. But I’m making progress and that’s the only thing I’m concerned with these days.
Someone earlier had made mention of the importance of the hall. It’s a NUMBER… It’s one number in a long line of numbers. Now I know that it’s easy for me to say that cause I’m already in, but I felt this way before I hit 100. You need to realize what you’ve done ALREADY!!!… You’ve broken an addiction that (if you’re like me) lasted multiple decades!!! NEVER underestimate the power and importance of one day off dip. The ONLY day that’s any more important than any other is Day 1. That’s the beginning of a journey that has no end. Take comfort in that.
I’ve written a HOF creed that I refer to quite often… It talks about remembering the first two weeks of my quit. That’s what “embracing the suck” is all about for me. I still don’t have my head around the concept of “forever”… but i can tell you one thing… I’m NEVER going through those first 2 weeks again. And here’s the beautiful thing… you don’t have to either… as long as you don’t cave.
I’m rambling at this point so I’ll leave you with this. Don’t be afraid to reach out even late in your quit… don’t be afraid to call a brother for help. There’s no shame in saying “I’m having a bad day… help me through this.” Don’t be afraid to call chewie even if we’ve never talked (pm me and my digits are yours). A quote from my HOF speech says it all
“Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering.” — Don’t be afraid to get help.
Bottom line is this… You’re doing AWESOME… I’m proud of you.
I can’t wait to see each and every one of you in the hall. See you soon.