What To Expect – 100 Days and Beyond

Expectations - KillTheCanYears ago, we put together a timeline of the first 100 days of your quit – What To Expect When You Quit Dipping. It was created based on the input of thousands of quitters and has proven to be incredibly accurate. And while this timeline shows a quitter with incredible accuracy what to expect in the first three months of their quit, it doesn’t clue them into what to expect further down the road. That’s where this page comes in. We’re going to try and lay out the time after you hit the 100 day Hall of Fame. We’re looking for feedback and input so please comment below and we’ll incorporate themes moving forward.

Days 120 – 150

You’re feeling pretty good about yourself. You’ve successfully quit dipping but it bothers you that you still think about it from time to time. You question your quit and how solid it actually is. You’re scared that in a moment of weakness you’ll go back to the can and throw away everything you’ve worked so hard to achieve. You get especially scared because you’re dealing with some massive craves now and then that you haven’t felt since the funk back in the 80-90 day range. Stay strong. This will pass.

Day 365

Congratulations! You have successfully navigated a full year being quit! Now staying quit is “simply” a matter of repeating what you already did last year. There is not a single day on the calendar that you have not already conquered.

More coming soon… please comment below with your experiences after the 100 day mark.

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  1. I really started chewing when I was 18, but I’d had my first dip around 15 or 16 years old. It was sadly part of the culture where I grew up. The sports, work, friends and outdoor country lifestyle were all an influence. My dad also chewed when he was younger, quit when I was around 7-8 years old, but I’m not certain if addiction to tobacco is genetic in any way or purely a personal fight and psychological battle.

    I quit chewing for good in 2014. I was 27 years old. Those three years were some of the best I’ve ever known, especially when it came to how much my relationship flourished. I’d been dating the same girl since we were 19 years old, and she had been tortured because of my addiction for years. She is not afraid to say exactly how she feels about how unattractive and depressing it was to see/know I was chewing. Honestly, nobody in their right mind would be attracted to a chewer. It’s disgusting. Every time you think about kissing that person, you also think about the last time they had a dip, and whether or not they brushed their teeth recently. The thought quickly brings nausea, and therefore no more desire to kiss. I wouldn’t kiss a chewer, would you?

    Now I am 30 years old and engaged to the same woman. She is the love of my life. I don’t know why she is still with me after everything that involved quitting, or attempting to quit, over the years. Besides the nasty breath, teeth stains and pouched lip, the mood swings had to be the worst by leaps and bounds. Aimless rage, inconsolable depression, relapse anxiety, and other feelings that are difficult out to describe or explain, but painful to feel. She went through all of this just as much as I did. She conquered the addiction too. She had three incredible, kissable, happy and dip-free years.The shine in her eyes when I looked into them, the love I could see in her soul, it was pure and true.

    Now, we are engaged to be wed. Just this summer I asked her to marry me, and she said yes. 🙂

    The tale does not end so pleasantly. See, today I am writing this short story after being inspired by this website, the people behind the messages on the posts, the challenges you all face every day, and also the challenges and pain that our loved ones face in the wake of our decisions and addictions. Today I also had a very heated, very sad, and very avoidable dispute with my fiancée. Because I am chewing again and has lied to her about it,

    A month or so ago, whilst driving a rental car, a half full (and fresh) can Copenhagen Long Cut came sliding out from under the passenger seat during an abrupt stop. I instantly felt tempted by the sight of the can, and knew it would be best to toss it, but I gave in to my feelings and had a dip. (Disgusting I know, because I have no clue where it came from.) After that can was gone, I went into a gas station and bought another, again despite my inner conscience screaming at me to stop. This happened again when I ran out, and again and again, until it quickly became a pattern and then a habit. Each time telling myself, lying to MYSELF, that it would be the last time.

    It’s my fault for chewing, but more importantly it’s my fault for lying about it and trying to hide it. I did not want her to see me in what I felt was a weak state. I did not want her to see my failure. I loved the way she was attracted to me, how she kissed me openly without hesitation or fear of chew breath, and I wanted to still be that person. So for over a month, I did not tell her I chewed. I kept it a secret, and I lied to myself about quitting soon to make myself feel better. The lie was eating me up inside, I hated the person I was, for the vicious cycle of chewing and lying, feeling weak and knowing what I was doing was wrong.

    When she asked me why I was spending so long in the bathroom, I lied. When she asked me straight up if I was chewing, I said no. I thought I could quit myself, and she would not think worse of me. I was so wrong.

    I don’t know if she’ll forgive me for lying about chewing, or for chewing itself. All I know is how sorry I feel for putting her through all of this again, after years of life without it. Now she’s discovered proof that I chew and caught me in the lie, while we’ve been engaged for one month, after ten years of dating. Our wedding is in a month and a half, but since she found out I’ve been lying to her about chewing again, she pretty much hates my guts. I feel terrible for putting her in this situation, all because I couldn’t be an honest man to her and myself about admitting my mistake that I was hooked to chew again.

    I still plan to quit, today. I don’t know what I’ll do once I get the craving again…probably the same thing I’ve always done admittedly. I sincerely hope not. The patches I’ve used before help with the craving, but I’ve still taken dips and bought new cans of chew even while wearing the patches. It’s always going to be a battle of the mind with myself to quit chewing for good, I know that. I’ve been through that battle and I won. Then in the blink of an eye, due to bad luck and weak moment, I had a dip and destroyed everything I’d built; my lovely fiancĂ©e’s trust and love, my self respect and pride, my will and determination to succeed, all gone. Thrown out the window like I should have tossed that fucking can of chew to begin with.

    I hope my fiancée will trust me and love me again. I hope she still marries me. I hope I find the inner strength, purpose and tools needed to quit today. I hope I never lie to my fiancée or to myself about tobacco again.

    I hope, if anyone actually reads this rant, that YOU will never lie to your loved ones or to yourself. I hope you will talk about your tobacco use to them instead of waiting until they find out on their own. I hope this openness will show how much you care about them, about yourself, and about your relationship. I hope it gives you a deeper connection to your loved one when you tell the truth even when it’s hard, and they see your string character and trust you completely. I hope this trust grows and the love between you is never disturbed by lies, deceit and self hate influenced by tobacco use.

    • Hang in there. I am on day 1…lol

    • i feel the pain man. i quit for a full year, then dipped for the past year, and then here i am again at day fucking 2. i never got heavy withdrawals, but i honestly loved to dip. my wife actually never once commented on it in 7 years, but i know what she thinks. how could she not, its what i would think too. i think my fault the first time round was that i didnt quit for me, i quit for her (even though she never once mentioned it). this time, im not making that same mistake. if theres one thing i feel intensely, its that dipping is a prison. i always looking for a way to squeeze in 5 minutes of free time here and there, an hour to be alone that i otherwise wouldnt try and make fit, turning down nights out with my stunning woman because i can sit at home and dip…and dip…and dip. FUCK that. im tired of making decisions so that i can indulge in something that will likely leave me without teeth, or a damn jaw. im done being trapped by my own addictive personality, and making my wife pay the price on top of everything else.

      we got this man, lets step into our own damn lives and take our decisions back. we both fucked over the women that love us with this disgusting habit. but it isnt over, we aint dead yet.

  2. My friends once I quited for 8 months. Once for 3 months. I felt I controlled it. Again I started. But actually if you start it will continue. you can not control it.

  3. I dipped for nearly 2 years. I am currently under 19 days without. The first 5 days weren’t easy, but honestly for me after that I have had minor cravings but it has been very easy for me to continue without it. I always craved it while I drove or while I was doing an outdoor activity etc.

    • ive quit several times. my weak point was never the first few months, it was always after like…a year. after all that time went by i would start to think “oh it wasnt really that bad, i can have 1 dip”. the demonization had worn off, and i slipped. ive been through 2 rounds of this over 4 years. its the long game that sucks

  4. 48 hours in after dipping for 10 years. This is the time!

  5. Its been 19 months since I flushed my last can of Longhorn. Before that, I’d spent over 25 years dipping. Let me clarify how bad my habit was. In 25 years, unless I was eating or asleep, I had a lip full. No exaggeration. So, I guess its understandable that after this long without a single use, I STILL HAVE CRAVINGS EVERY DAY OF MY LIFE. But I will never use again, that’s just a given for me. I win. Tobacco loses now and forever….end of story. Dudes and dudetts, if I can quit, you can quit. NEVER give in, NEVER give up and NEVER cop out!

  6. Today marks 1 year that I took the pledge to quit dipping, and I am happy to say I made it! I looked at this site daily for what seemed like months, just reading your guys testimonies and comments. I am thankful for you guys and this site, because this helped me though the tough times when I thought I needed a dip. This my first time commenting because I challenged myself and said that until I make it 1 year, I will not post anything so that I can truly become like a lot of you guys! Best decision of my life was quitting and finding this site to help me along the way! Keep up the good work guys, and if anyone needs any help at all with anything, please feel free to contact me! Again, thanks for all your inspiration guys! Ffkbarrett100@gmail if anyone needs any help or advice!

    • Congrats at making it a year! I am 6 months in now but the cravings have come back and have been lingering for about a month. Are you still getting the cravings at a year mark? I am not worried about giving in to them. I have made my mind and quitting is to important to me, just wondering if I will be dealing with the cravings for another 6 months.

      Thanks

  7. Nine months today for me but almost fell off the wagon just last week. Work is a huge trigger and there’s plenty of dip around. I still have cravings every day. Dealing with what I assume to be associated depression. Have gained about 15 pounds.
    Wanted so bad for 9 months to be a happy anniversary. Wish there was someone I could talk to about it – to get a high five, but that’s not my life.
    I’m afraid it’s just a matter of time.

    • You’re talking like you’ve given up. STOP IT. You’ve nine months free from your addiction. Pick yourself up and realize how far you’ve come and DON’T throw it away.

      You want someone to talk to? There’s 28,000 + members on our forums http://forum.killthecan.org – go talk there or right here. You’re not alone. KEEP FIGHTING.

  8. I went to a friends wedding and one of the that I was sitting next to pulled out a can of my old favorite,skoal mint pouches. I held strong but ever since then I’ve been having some cravings. I am now five months in and have not cheated once. But after reading this blog, I see other people about just as far as me were for or further having the same cravings and it makes me realize that there is hope. This site gave me what I was looking for because I thought today was the day I was going to cheat.

  9. 8 months as of yesterday. Well I did try chew again in late July but I got sick so I spit it out. Imagine that I chewed for 22 years and got sick.

  10. Great information
    I will try to quite tobbaco

    • I hate to say it, but if you’re going to “try” you’re going to fail.

      You need to “know” that you’re going to quit. Mindset makes a huge difference. In the immortal words of Yoda, “Do or do not. There is no try.”

  11. Starting to quit today. I thought that if I put this in here I’d have to quit. I’m not the type of guy to go back on my word. I haven’t had a chew all day. The hardest part for me are the cravings. How long do they last, (on average) 10 minutes?

  12. On day 42 was doing doing great till found a can in the like a idiot looked at the date it’s good till oct 11 i threw it away but been thinking about it all night how pathetic is that

  13. Soldierwhoquitsonlyonething

    I just quit on Tuesday morning, 8/9/2016, I dipped before a ruck march. I bought nicotine lozenges the weekend prior. I had a plan but it took me a few days to see it through. I’ve been using the lozenges every day. I’ve drank a few beers since but I’ve grabbed the lozenges instead of a can. I have quite a few cans lying around. I read where someone is keeping a couple of cans in a drawer as a trophy. I like the idea of being stronger than that ring of heaven. I dipped for 13 years only switching to cigarettes or quitting for a few short months. I want this to be the end. My dentist told me I he pre-cancerous lesions on my gums. I was actively thinking about the possibility of cancer more than once a month the whole time. Hope I caught it in time. There’s only one way to find out right?

    • I realize this is an old comment but I’ve got to respond…

      If you’re using lozenges every day, you’re not quit.

      If you’ve got “quite a few cans lying around”… you’re most likely no longer quit.

      While it may make you feel good to “be stronger” this is a stupid line of thinking that the Nic Bitch loves. Nicotine and dip is the enemy. Remove it from your life. Remove it as an option. Anything less and you’ll most likely be back to the can (if you’re not already).

  14. So this is my first day trying to quit dipping. Surprisingly I woke up and wanted to quit so bad I’ve been dipping for 5 years now and I’m already going crazy. That’s how I found this site. I was going crazy and yelling at my family members through the house and I went into my room and got on Google and searched things that would encourage me to not put that dip of snuff in. I’ve been congratulating myself by the house as the tears of frustration run down my cheek. I’ve never went one hour without dipping. So I’m trying to clean to get my mind off of it. It’s not helping much but I do have to say this is a great site. I will probably not succeed at this. I will try and after a few months I’ll probably say well it won’t hurt. I know it will hurt. I don’t wanna give up. I need help. Anything to help stop aggravation? Please say yes. I might end up going crazy before this first day is over with.

  15. I’ve quit a couple times in the past only to start back up again. I am going to try again tomorrow. I’m scared shitless cause I know how much this is going to fucking suck. Anyone use nicotine gum or anything like that and if so how effective was it?

    • Hello Kyle,
      Hope your journey of quitting is working out. Just remember man…. You’re in control. You can do this. I dipped for 18 years and would literally sleep with one in every night. When I finally quit (2 years this August 9th), I did several things:
      1. Drank tons of water. Not sure if this helped but it helped me think I was flushing the nic out of my system.
      2. Chewed TONS of gum. Regular wrigleys or similar (not nicotine kind).
      3. Told my family, friends and co-workers what I was doing and that I may be a bit on edge for a while.
      4. Kept two brand new unopened tins right there in my sock drawer. Just so I know it’s there… But I’m stronger than them and don’t need to open them.
      I still have them to this day…. Now they’re kind of like a trophy.
      Keep up the fight man…. You can beat that stuff. Best thing I’ve done for myself.
      JL

      • Wow, JL. I’ve never heard of keeping chew around when trying to quit. I’m glad that it works for you, but I wouldn’t recommend advising people who want to quit chewing to keep a tin of it in their sock drawer. Kind of funny actually. Otherwise, great advice and congratulations on 2 years of quitting.

        • I am new to the quit started 8/22/17, and still on track. I am replying here because I too decided that for this quit to work it needed to be my quit. Not an I am out so I guess I will stop quit. So I have a unopened sealed can in my desk drawer at work. Started when I was 12 going through the quit at age 32.

  16. Day 154 here. Cravings last couple of weeks have been some of the worst yet. Weird internal pain that was almost gone came back this week but still not as strong as it used to be. Been probed and scanned a lot in the last few months. All looks good except for some mildly high pancreas and liver enzymes. Hope they go down to fully normal sometime. This new life is great. Cravings mask it’s niceness darn it.

  17. Day 170….160s were pretty good. Still getting used to emotions without the numbing effect of nicotine…..when I get excited it almost makes me dizzy, but it feels good…..almost feels like for the first time I’m really alive. That weird detached feeling is starting to subside….. I’m guessing my brain is almost fully adjusted and healed…..that feeling of ” normal” is setting in day by day.

    Hopefully the 170s are even better…. Guaranteed to be Nic free!

  18. Day 255… It was extremely hard the first week. After that it wasn’t really bad. Only thing i noticed was I gained a lot of weight, A LOT of weight. At about day 251 I noticed a strong urge to dip out of nowhere. It definitely doesn’t go away. Only thing motivating me to continue to keep going is everything I worked for to finally quit after 6 years.

  19. I am on day 11. Feeling depressed, tired, constipated and things that normally gave me pleasure no longer do.

  20. Day #159….the 150s were better than the 140s but still not great. Had a couple shots of “fogginess”….and am still having very mild spells of dizzness especially in the morning. I’m guessing that’s my brain trying to adjust and heal. I went in and had my blood sugar and pressure checked just to make sure the dizziness wasn’t part of low blood sugar or high blood pressure….all checked out perfect so I know it’s just my brain healing.

    I’m getting some awesome shots of “clarity”…..where this awful fucking journey has glimpses of hope and finality…..god I can’t wait.

    But I also understand that I’m not done…..there is still lots of healing that needs to take place.

    150s were better…..hoping for some great stretches in the 160s.

    • Congrats Craig! I am day 109 today, and these last days anxiety has come back pretty bad. Causing me shortness of breath, chest pain, etc. Did you still have some anxiety this far in? Ive heard of it lasting for 200-300 days?

  21. Day 152 and seem to be out of the brutal funk of the 140s…..seemed surprisingly clear today….almost a level of clarity that I haven’t experienced before…..hoping this is the start of a nice long stretch of good days…..hoping the funks are a thing of the past.

    Loving the 150s so far!

  22. I’ll get this ball rolling. I’m at 146 and so far the 140s have been brutal…..woke up on day 140 and out of nowhere was back in the fog….not fog like early in my quit….but strong enough to take notice that I’m not done with the battles.
    Dundippin also commented that his 140s were awful too…..so maybe there is something to that time frame…..maybe it’s one last gasp of air for the Nic Bitch.

    Either way….. Not at all liking the 140s…. Hopefully 150s are better.

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