Every once in a while I run across a post on our forums or our Discord community that makes me stop and really think. This one, where BrianBrianBrian suggests you need to change the way you look at things in your quit was one of those times.
First, the set up… Tamu44 (Apr 24) posted to following:
I appreciate y’all help a lot honestly I think y’all were the only thing keeping me from chewing. One of buddies handed me a can last night and I kept thinking about caving but eventually just let go knowing the journey I’m on. I’m only 22 so it’s kinda hard not to drink once in a while on the weekends
Hardest part is just knowing I’m never gonna be able to dip again and I guess that’s the part that really gets to me idk
And BrianBrianBrian came back with this piece of brilliance:
What I’m about to say is hard to understand for someone your age, I’m doubtful I could retain it at 22. But hey, here you are quitting tobacco at an age very very few of us could do… So with that, here it is.
You have to change the way you look at things, thus the things you look at change.
If someone loses his left arm, he doesn’t say “man, i just can’t deal with using my right arm forever so I’m just going to go back to using both arms.”
So when you hear people here say, caving is not an option, that metaphor I just gave you is the baseline to it’s meaning.
To build off of that metaphor; sure you can get a bionic arm, as such you can also use fake dip. While neither will ever be the same as the real thing, they both play a supporting role in helping you to develop a better future towards your goal, whatever that might be.
It’s a little deep, but the philosophy is paramount throughout many of life’s struggles.
Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change
Start treating your quit as something of a permanent loss that you cannot go back to.
Original link (for Discord members) can be found here. Do yourself a favor and read before and after this comment. Some epic inputs to the conversation. It just goes to show you… no matter how alone you feel, there are quitters in our community that have your back!